The economic and social costs of “sex wars” are rooted in structural conflicts over survival strategies shaped by reproductive differences. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, . While part of this difference may be attributed to non-paid baby care, this gap may highlight the costs of conflicts in traditional relationships over ownership of DNA, offspring memory, social and tangible assets extortion by manipulated of transactions of the couple. The study of Y (male) chromosome reproduction over the last 75,000 contributes to the following speculations on the reproduction strategies conflicts.
Women, as the primary incubators of offspring, leverage their reproductive scarcity to A) drive , while simultaneously B) from non-alpha males. To overcome investor resistance, strategies have evolved that reduce transactional transparency, such as emotional and less logical communication, and sunk-cost tactics like child hostaging to manipulate prices in relational transactions to facilitate transfer of assets.
Alpha males, meanwhile, aim to maximize genetic spread while assisting females in extracting resources from less-dominant males. This dynamic leads investing males to enforce restrictions on female exposure to alpha males, often through incentives like homemaking roles, reinforcing the wage gap and constraining women’s professional output.
While the sexual selection benefits of the above strategies have diminished with the introduction of constraints such as religious norms, contraception, and DNA testing, this does not imply a proportional reduction in costs. Instinct-driven strategies that fall short of contributing to the value creation in sexual selection may still generate unnecessary and avoidable costs.
Key strategies to reduce the costs of the “sex wars” :
Replace Social Restrictions with DNA Testing or Altruistic Acceptance: Eliminate restrictions on female social and career opportunities by leveraging DNA testing to confirm paternity or altruistically ignore the source of DNA. Implement Enforceable Contracts for Child Investment: Create structured, legally enforceable contracts to define parental investments in children. These should account for the “kids wage gap” and time commitments, particularly in the early weeks of pregnancy. Note that policies facilitating abortion may weaken claims to fixed terms by enabling renegotiation under “forced signing” arguments. Contracts can have a variable investment which incorporate mechanisms such as funding rate principles from perpetual swaps, where small immediate penalties for deviations maintain strong adherence to the underlying contract. Reduce the Profitability of Sunk-Cost Attacks: Mitigate sunk-cost manipulations (eg. your program will be erased from a kid memory and diminish value of your investment into the kid) by immediate removal of variable investment in case of such attack. Use structured penalties like the funding rate principle to enforce commitment. Ensure Fair Compensation for Alternative Costs: Increase transparency in evaluating costs and benefits, including opportunity costs. While conflicts over transfer pricing and valuation are difficult to avoid, clearer definitions can help minimize manipulation. Make Synergies and Accumulated Advantages Transparent: Clearly demonstrate whether synergies and long-term advantages provide value exceeding compensation demands. Note that these values are often negative and this is hidden with manipulations often or obscured through manipulative behaviors, including reliance on emotional rather than logical communication. The strategies to enhance the social currency alpha (we are not yet able to change own DNA, but we are able to change the more important part of the survival information - social currency) :
Prioritize High-Growth Potential Segments: Focus child development efforts on areas with significant growth potential, such as IT olympiad competitions, Bay Area institutions like Berkeley and Stanford, and technology professions. Optimize Time Costs Through Structured Assessment: Implement a structured approach to evaluating the value of relationships, synergies, and accumulated advantages relative to alternative costs. Use metrics such as the impact on the Nasdaq index as a benchmark for alternative costs (see the Model for details). Address Diversification Pressures: Account for the increasing alternative costs associated with exploring new information through other sexual partners and the instinctive drive to diversify DNA for co-replication. Strategies should balance these pressures with long-term value creation (for longer-term relations).
Same-sex couples earn approximately 17% more than opposite-sex couples (11.5% could be attributed to the kids wage gap which is a mix of the conflicts costs and unpaid babycare)
A) Females drive sexual selection toward high-value “alpha” DNA
Over 75,000 Years: Males 4x Less Likely Than Females to Pass on DNA, with Top 25% of Men Fathering Nearly All Surviving Offspring—Extreme Cases Show 1 Male to 15 Females Ratio.
B) Females securing investments from non-alpha males (to secure expansion of offsprings as per the below examples).
Top 33% by Asset Ownership Double and Displace Low-Ownership Group Within Three Generations (for Squirrels and Hyaenas). Humans’ assets should have higher share of social currency such as their networks and survival strategies - more vulnerable to the sex wars conflicts comparing to tangible assets.
PS. Example of transfer pricing manipulation:
Person A pays $100 on behalf of Person B at her request, even though it is not obligatory or part of a contract. In return, Person A expects to receive social currency (e.g., a “gratitude note”) to be reciprocated later. While the price of $100 bill is not easy to manipulate, Person B may claim the gesture caused negative consequences worth -$200, turning the balance of the gratitude note into -$100. In essence, the “gratitude note” is counterfeited into a liability by adding a minus to the price of the note. Counterfeiting money carries penalties of up to 20 years in prison, yet the analogous counterfeiting of social currency often goes unpunished, enabling widespread misuse to transfer assets from A in such transactions.
Ref.
Zeng, T.C., Aw, A.J. & Feldman, M.W. Cultural hitchhiking and competition between patrilineal kin groups explain the post-Neolithic Y-chromosome bottleneck. Nat Commun 9, 2077 (2018). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41467-018-04375-6